Dedicating yourself to your work/career gives you the sense of a distinct identity-doctor, lawyer, cashier, pilot, nurse, janitor, teacher, et al. Your work/career are simply roles and do not reflect, who you truly are.
Focusing intently on work tasks might give you a sense of accomplishment that could generate greater self-confidence in yourself and what you do. Although, it is important to be proud of your accomplishments, it is also important to reflect on who you are as a person rather than only seeing yourself through your role at work.
If you wonder if your work defines you, you need to take time to look deeper within and ask yourself who you would be if you were not working. Think about what characteristics you have that are special and unique will help you realize that your dependability and accomplishments are something that is innate and not dependent on what you do at work.
Separating yourself from your work gives you a healthier perspective of who you truly are. Since you spend a large portion of your time at work, it is understandable your sense of self and self-worth becomes wrapped up in your work-related goals and successes. The danger in this paradigm lies in linking who you are to what you do, since if you were to receive criticism at work, you could easily be devastated. By seeing your special qualities as being part of you and not part of your job, you will have greater confidence in yourself and be devoted to the most important aspect of who you truly are.
By: Dorothy M. Neddermeyer, PhD